Let them eat Cake

Life is too short to be hungry

Or punish yourself with food or denial of food.

I posted yesterday about cake but I want to revisit the real issue.

My clients bring me cake because they know I lead a life that is a healthy balance of work and play. I love food, and I love training so I can happily enjoy a great mixture of both.

For my 50th my goal was to love my body. Not attain the perfect body but love my body for all its imperfections. Why that you may ask, well because it hasnt been easy and I wanted a challenge that would really make me happy.

For years the fitness industry fuelled my body torment. I felt I needed to look a certain way or no one would hire me or take me seriously. I rarely felt good enough. 

I was a chubby teen amongst skinny, food obsessed friends so for years felt like the fat kid in the room no matter what room or who was in it.

I am 169cm tall and at one point got down to 61kgs. This is the closest I got to a six pack but I was hungry and obsessed with counting calories, what I looked like and if people thought I was fat.

I never really ate enough, and lived by the motto, “nothing tastes as good as a compliment”.

Wow! Searching for validation much? I just want to hug that me.

I have a vivid memory of wearing a crazy hot dress to a party, but worrying all day about whether I looked fat and trying not to eat so I wouldn't bloat?

Fast forward to today and I am sitting at about 73kgs. The heaviest I have been and ideally I would like to shed a couple of kgs of the covid wine layer to make running more comfortable, but my whole attitude has shifted.

• I want to be strong and healthy and vital - I am. I deadlift 82kgs.
• I want to be able to say yes to any opportunity or adventure that comes my way - Hell yes!
• I want to feel good in clothes I love and be able to wear things that appeal to me and my attitude rather than shape or shame clothing - tick.
• I want an active, fun filled sex life where Im confident in my body, not worried about fat rolls - tick
• I want to go to dinner with friends, eat, drink and belly laugh all night and feel 
• gratitude not guilt.

What do you want from your body - your life?

So yes, my client brought me cake today. And yes I ate it and shared it with my daughter. I would encourage you to eat it too if it was something you wanted to do or that would mark an occasion. 

So if you feel like the fattest girl in the room I may be the coach you need.

If you seek some relief from the mean girl in your head - book a call today. 

If you want a long term solution, a friendly, compassionate coach by your side, I may be right for you.

But if you just want to be skinny I wont help you with that directly but can make you strong and fit. I can offer support, work on some new values, and encourage a truck load of self love.

There is FAR more to life than being skinny and conforming to an archaic, bullshit, unrealistic ideal, but you know this. I'm not telling you anything you don't know, or haven't heard before but maybe now you are ready to believe it. Ready to embrace it. You may be finally ready to be kind to yourself make the changes you have wanted for years. But on new terms.